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Bi the way, I'm Bi ...

A friend of mine came to visit and we got on the discussion on bisexuality and gays. She said she supported the Gay lifestyle, that was their choice ... ok, great start ... then she said "but I can't understand bisexuality. You either like a side or you don't! They must be a confused bunch." ... ok, baaaaaaad baaaaaad ending. She is a Child Psychologist, mind you, so she confuses herself at times, asking me for advice most of the time as well. I never told her I was bisexual. I never felt I had to, it was none of her business, until now I guess. It made me wonder if she knew I was bi and was trying to use reverse psychology on me, but then I thought maybe she was right, am I confused? I guess I've been confused all my life because I remember having an intense interest in girls by the time I was 7, but loved the boys just as well. Now at 34, I'm totally in love with my husband, but have had several different relationships with bisexual women, that which has been a most wonderful friendship and experience for both of us women. I can't see me changing, in fact, I don't want to. I love my life. I just wish it were easier to handle in certain situations ... the one with my friend for instance.

I'm not completely clueless when it comes to flirting, just a little intimidated when it comes to flirting ... with women. As a married bi-female, it's not hard for me to get hit on almost instantly from guys, hell, just put on a wedding ring and you'll have them all over your fucking doorstep *sigh*, but women ... those beautiful, natural, intelligent women you tend to see at the schools your children go to, at the mommy clubs you're a part of, at the PTO meetings you attend, at the stores you shop at ... how does a bi-female even toss a "hint" of interest or try to acknowledge any piece of signal she may be passing to you that she is actually bi? Is my friend hiding her inner fantasies underneath a lock of words to distract a conversation? Are most women bi? Is it safe to say that 90% of women in our generation have experienced a bisexual encounter or that she is bisexually curious? Is bisexuality just a phase? And the big question, how the fuck do I tell someone I am sooo interested in you?