2 posts tagged “girls”
A friend of mine came to visit and we got on the discussion on bisexuality and gays. She said she supported the Gay lifestyle, that was their choice ... ok, great start ... then she said "but I can't understand bisexuality. You either like a side or you don't! They must be a confused bunch." ... ok, baaaaaaad baaaaaad ending. She is a Child Psychologist, mind you, so she confuses herself at times, asking me for advice most of the time as well. I never told her I was bisexual. I never felt I had to, it was none of her business, until now I guess. It made me wonder if she knew I was bi and was trying to use reverse psychology on me, but then I thought maybe she was right, am I confused? I guess I've been confused all my life because I remember having an intense interest in girls by the time I was 7, but loved the boys just as well. Now at 34, I'm totally in love with my husband, but have had several different relationships with bisexual women, that which has been a most wonderful friendship and experience for both of us women. I can't see me changing, in fact, I don't want to. I love my life. I just wish it were easier to handle in certain situations ... the one with my friend for instance.
I'm not completely clueless when it comes to flirting, just a little
intimidated when it comes to flirting ... with women. As a married
bi-female, it's not hard for me to get hit on almost instantly from
guys, hell, just put on a wedding ring and you'll have them all over
your fucking doorstep *sigh*, but women ... those beautiful, natural,
intelligent women you tend to see at the schools your children go to,
at the mommy clubs you're a part of, at the PTO meetings you attend, at
the stores you shop at ... how does a bi-female even toss a "hint" of
interest or try to acknowledge any piece of signal she may be passing
to you that she is actually bi? Is my friend hiding her inner fantasies underneath a lock of words to distract a conversation? Are most women bi? Is it safe to say
that 90% of women in our generation have experienced a bisexual
encounter or that she is bisexually curious? Is bisexuality just a
phase? And the big question, how the fuck do I tell someone I am sooo interested in you?
Why is it so hard to find a good "girl friend" these days? One that you can hang out with on weekends, have coffee with on occasion and make paper crafts together even if your projects turn out like Pre-K Artwork? What happened to those groups of girls that get together and be young together, even if you are a mom? I'm a mother of 3 and I still find time for my kids, my husband, my work, my MMORPGs, and myself - in that order too! I hear women all the time complain about how they "never have time for themselves" or "they feel so old" but to me, I could make a list of shit that I go through and I still make an effort to make a friend, so those words are just excuses.
I have tried to invite people out, invite them over, invite them to coffee, even volunteered to find babysitters for these women and I always get pushed aside. Some even say "I don't have the money", so I tell them I can get a babysitter that does $7.00/hr and for only 3 hrs that's only $21!! If you plan for it during the month and I give 2 weeks or more in advance, why can't you pre-plan? So I ask when in the ENTIRE MONTH will you ever be able to do anything? ... always excuses.
Maybe it's me, I am always told I'm a good person, friendly, loving, so fun to be around ... maybe I'm looking for friends in the wrong places? Maybe it's just not meant for me to have friends? What do you ladies do to make a new friend? Where do you look for friends?
I live by the saying that one philosopher once stated; "You don't stop playing because you grow old, You grow old because you stop playing" ... and I don't plan to be an old woman anytime soon!
